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Monday, December 30, 2013

2013 Kaleidoscope & Hope for Better 2014

Finally this year has come to an end. This year end is a bit better for me as last year it was ended with Delhi Gang Rape case which was very brutal and the mood was very much gloomy. Being a woman, imagining that it could happen to another woman, it sends chill to all of us. May Amanat's family be given the strength to face the ordeal.

If we see the overall situation, in all the families, there would be ups and downs. In some families, there might be loss of loved ones, while in other families, there might be new comers with their own cuteness and fuss. Some people might go out of our circles of life and become strangers, while some strangers could come into our lives and create wonder prints. Whatever happens, life goes on.

Other than that, all over the world, we have lost some of the public figures as well. Among them are:
  1. Nelson Mandela who has given a very good legacy to us by fighting for what he believes.
  2. Paul Walker, the boyish guy that has been the reason many girls watch Fast and Furious series.
  3. Tom Clancy, the writer whose books are pretty prominent for readers who are interested in politics, espionage, military science and strategies.
  4. Shakuntala Devi, the Maths genius from India whose brain functions like a computer.
  5. Margaret Thatcher, the Iron Lady (there is a movie "Iron Lady" about her if you wish to have a watch on how her life revolves).
  6. Hugo Chavez, President of Venezuela. I personally like his name very much.
  7. Mikhail Kalashnikov, the man who created the world-wide used weapon AK-47.
  8. Other than that, we have some people from India who has spent their lives in art, such as Poet Vaali (T.S. Rangarajan as a poet, lyricist, writer, and actor) and Raghuram Master (prominent choreographer in South Indian movie industry).
Note: The list above is not comprehensive as it is from my personal point of view.

Five of the worst world natural disasters happened in 2013: (Source: www.worldvision.org)
  1. Typhoon Haiyan in Philippines
  2. Typhoon Phailin in India
  3. Hurricanes Manuel and Ingrid in Mexico
  4. Earthquake in Central Visayas - Philippines
  5. Tornadoes in The United States
Other events that happened in 2013:
  1. The United States Government shut down
  2. Dubai, UAE wins the bid for World Expo 2020
  3. Tokyo, Japan wins to host 2020 Olympics
  4. Boston Marathon blast
  5. Microsoft bought Nokia for USD 7.2 billion
  6. Mount Sinabung and Mount Merapi eruption in Indonesia
  7. Ivory Coast stampede that kills many during New Year 2013 celebration
  8. Resignation of Pope Benedict XVI
  9. Bitcoins as virtual currency gain popularity (someone bought a luxurious car with Bitcoins)
  10. Kenya Mall attack
  11. Yahoo bought Tumblr for USD 1.1 billion
  12. Some words gain popularity: Gramming (To Instgram something, just like Facebooking, Twittering, etc); Twerking; Selfie (turns Felfie = funeral selfie, after President Obama did the selfie during Nelson Mandela's funeral ceremony), and many others which have been updated in Oxford Dictionary last August 2013.
However, beyond all that, let's hope that the coming year would be better than before - not only from our personal point of view, but also for the overall human community on this earth. And let's not forget that no matter how we jump up and down for the new year celebration, it won't erase the chronic problems that we are facing as human race. It's not going to change the reality and the daily things that we are facing UNLESS we are willing to start some changes within ourselves. Let's not be like a Kiwi bird who thinks that it is safe in darkness and can't be found in darkness by simply closing its eyes. I'm sure we are better than that.

And about New Year Resolutions, I am not so much a person with New Year Resolution because most new year resolution are not continued for a long term. Let's not make that simply as a trend, unless you really mean it of course.

If you are truly to determined to do something, then you won't wait for New Year to come and if you wait for New Year to start something, then I believe you don't understand the importance of it at all. Whatever you wish to do, whether it is losing weight or gaining weight, start eating healthy, start writing that pending novel of yours, start that business that you have been dreaming, propose that girl that you have loved for ages, ask for forgiveness for the mistakes you have done, have a health check for the issue that has been bugging you, get out of that destructive relationship... whatever it is, it takes more than a NEW YEAR RESOLUTION to motivate you in doing it. It takes determination, courage, and faith in order to get something. So if you want to do it, motivate yourself to the maximum and by the grace of God, I hope it will turn out just well.

And just a reminder for all of us:

If you can help someone in need, whether it is just a free tuition for the little girl next door whose family's financial condition is not so good, then help.

If you can be there for a friend's helpless condition and all you could do is just to give your presence & soothing words, then be there.

If you have too much extra money and you could educate one orphan, then do it.

If you have too much food and you could share it to the kids on the street who might not even have access to 3 meals a day, then share it. We never know that one piece of chocolate cake that you share might be the best memory for one of the kids until that kid reaches 90 years old one day.

If you can forgive, then forgive. If you can't, then let go.

If you believe in something (no matter how harsh, how controversial it is), then stand for it. Life is too short to stand on others' shadow.

One person can't help everyone, but everyone can at least help one person at one moment of his time. Let's pay forward!

And before I end this, I would like to share a link from Harvard Business Review Blog: 10 Extraordinary People and Their Lessons for Success. I find it very inspirational. Hope you will like it too.

Wish you all a wonderful year ahead and special thanks from me for all the readers who has been reading this blog all this year. I have been getting some good reviews and critics. All of them are taken as constructive feedback and I can't thank more for that. Thank you once again. Wish you all the best. God be with you!

Poetry: Dreams in a Box

DREAMS IN A BOX

I once moved ahead of time
To realize that my timeline was imaginary
I flew high thinking it was utopia
Until I crashed down to pieces

I was left behind
Time was laughing at me
I sat still

I put my dreams in a box
I locked them with my disappointment
It was a lock without a key
I shoved it deep inside the closet of misery
So that no one shall find it

No doors
No light
No color
It's invisible
No one shall find it

Dreams…
If my dreams are material
I shall find a way
But…
They are maya

There is a shadow hanging over my bed
Every night telling that my dreams are waiting
But each time I wake up
I tell myself, it was just a dream
That I have locked tight
No one, not even me, shall open it again

Even if I wish, I don't know how to open it
How?
It's a lock without a key
Once it's locked... It's for good

They say dreams should be chased
Where should I chase when I don't even know where they are
Where do I start?
What is my first step?

Reality is harsh
It’s bitter
It’s painful
But it’s true

Moving through the thorns
Having my feet bleed
And letting my heart be sliced & beaten up to pieces
Have been my only solace … that my mind is in a safe corner

My feet are on the ground
No more dreams
No more hope
No more wishes
All are maya

I put my dreams in a box
And walk away…
To reality
To free world
To man-eating-man society
I raise my sword
Hold tight to my shield

I protect my sanity

I put my dreams in a box
and...
Let the reality continue


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Saturday, December 21, 2013

Bribing God? Hmmm...

Today I was talking to a 53-year old man who has been pretty successful in his life if we see it from social network and financial point of views. At least those were what I saw.

The conversation has gone twisted here and there which eventually led into "financial corruption" general issues. From the opinions that he had shared, I could clearly understand that he approves of the so-called "white corruption" which doesn't involve criminal acts. In real world, we say that as commission taking from projects or even giving money to smooth out certain red-tapes.

However, one statement surprised me pretty wildly. He said "If you are scared of God for committing corruption, then give 50% of what you get to the shrine donation". And I was like "WOW".

I am not telling that I am a holy human being here because I know I am clearly not, but to the extent of Bribing God? Now, that's way too many steps higher than I could ever imagine. You want to donate some of your black money for good purpose, please Go Ahead, but by telling "God, I'm sharing half of this with you" clearly doesn't make you come out clean-slate. It doesn't make you right.

This man that I was talking to evidently wasn't sensitive at all. I know he goes for praying every day. Now, I start questioning "Is he allying God for an unethical acts in his prayer?"

Just because our concept is different from other people, it doesn't mean that it is not right. Yes, that is true, but Bribing God with black money in order to vote ourselves NOT GUILTY?

Come on!! What the hell are we thinking?

Thursday, December 12, 2013

The Boomerang of Hiring a New Personnel

A couple of days ago, I was in the position to select a person in Freelancer to do some of our tasks and I found that pretty confusing. It is not something that I have done before and it definitely taught me some lesson. I realized how hard it must be for an HRD to decide which person to be placed in which position. I could really understand if mistakes are bound to happen due to the polished outer peel.

Since this was my first experience, I couldn't tell much but if there is one thing that I would like to focus is "language". It's not merely the grammar but the tone where you use that language. You don't simply apply for a job without understanding the proper way of communicating.

You don't simply go to the person who hired you and say "give me money" or "good morning give me payment".

I'm not telling the message is wrong. What I'm telling is, the way you convey the message is wrong. Of course, if you provide a service, you are entitled for a payment, but making you look as if you were chasing the employer with "give me payment, give me payment" won't sound so good. I definitely could understand the concern where you are afraid that you won't be paid, but chasing with such unethical tone is not going to help you in any way, especially when you haven't delivered the task as per the criteria.

In a professional world, there are protocols to follow. You can't simply barge in with such straight forward approach. If you do such thing in a real corporate where you meet viz-a-via with your superior, I could really understand if you are kicked out of the company in a snap of a finger.

Wouldn't it be more nice to say "Good morning mam. For the services that I have provided, would you please release the initial payment? I would really appreciate that."

You may say "That's my money. I earned it, why should I beg?"

It's not begging. That's the Protocol. It's not only for your superior, but that's how things are operating in corporate world if you want to create a harmony among your peers, subordinates, and superior. No matter how low a person is in the management ranking, he is entitled to the protocol, but yet, not many people understand this and hence, there would be grudge and eventually, like a boomerang, the issue would return to HRD with a name of "Staff Grievances".

A well-polished CV with all the skills certified with flying colors do not guarantee a person could perform a task well. AND EVEN THOUGH, he could perform the task well, in order to survive in corporate world, that alone is not sufficient. You must have a proper character and proper way of communicating. You like it or not, certain protocols must be followed even if you are the owner of the entire empire.

I think that is the only topic I wish to touch at the moment and it reminds me to an article I was reading some time ago by Richard Branson in the LinkedIn. You could click here to read:
Seriously, I LOVE the last line he placed in that article. That was epic ;). Everyone should read this, because this is not only limited to the corporate world but also in our daily life. Happy reading!

Monday, December 9, 2013

Random Food Photography

Today, I think I will just share some of the food photographs that I have taken since some time ago. Not very special ones, but might be entertaining to have a look at your leisure time :)

Weekend Lunch = Water Spinach + bean sprouts stir fry, Tofu + fish sambal (cooked in chili) + Oyster Mushroom Finger chips + Pepino fruit

Tofu + Brinjal sambal + Ground spinach curry

Cashew + Almond, Pistachio, Walnut, Black Raisin, Anjur

Roasted almond soaked in Honey

Obettu = Karnataka traditional sweet (I am not so good with the shape, so I made the shape like a Bolani). Bolani is Afghan Paratta.

My All Time Favorite - Instant Noodle

Lemon

Soaked & Peeled Almonds

Steamed Sweet Potatoes

Tilapia Fish sambal

Fried Bihun with Prawn

Childhood breakfast - Salted butter crackers with sweet black tea

Soaked almond + cashew + black raisin

Worst combination of snacks - Boiled egg & salted butter crackers

Chocolate and Cheese bread - The best ever

Water Apples

Salted Crackers with Choco grain

Roast banana topped with grated cheddar & chocolate grain


Indonesian traditional sweets - Kolak (Banana cooked in coconut milk + jaggery/brown sugar)

Quail Eggs

Quail Eggs

Drumstick Chocolate Doughnut

Indonesian traditional steamed jaggery cup cakes

Indonesian traditional layer cake

Indonesian traditional dish - Tauco (with quail eggs, tofu, prawns, and french beans)

Indonesian traditional snack - Onion chips

Butter Nut Caramel Candies. A cup of candies anyone? :)



Snake Fruit

Santang Daun Oranges (very small, but damn sweet) :)
And approximately 2 weeks ago, my friend suddenly called "Hey, get your front yard ready, we are coming for BBQ" and here are the shots :). Thank you for Kevin, Ensui, Kiminiko, and Ensui's girlfriend for the extraordinary evening. And special thanks to Ensui's girl to make a grand salad & perfect sour-sweet chili dip for the grill. They were excellent. Love you guys :)
Chicken in the process :)

The walking tray of drinks, rice, chips, glasses, and plates

Cucumber and Lime for BBQ Salad

Sweet Onion and Lettuce for BBQ Salad
Chicken pieces are ready

Grilled Salmon

Salmon in the process. Brushed with butter & chili using lemon grass root

Gourami. The best when grilled :)

And let's not forget the best of all - Milk Corn grill :). Eating it at 1 am with an interesting conversation :)

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Suicide: 7 Questions To Ask Before You Decide!

Suicide topic has come to my ears this morning and suddenly it hit me like a lightning... "Ahhhh yes... that's the personal experience that I haven't specifically shared".

In a man's life (man = both man & woman), there would be a point where he at least once thinks of suicide and I think it's pretty common. It can't be said as abnormal. The issue is that some people go to the extend of actually committing it, while the others have the capacity to bounce back from such thoughts.

I personally ever was in this position in my life. The pain that I felt was so intense that the only pain-relief that I could think of was ending my own life. That thoughts were scary. It was dark, helpless, hopeless. I couldn't sleep for many days. The cause of the pain keep shouting in my ears. I had nightmares all night along. My heartbeat was a total mess. It was like I had a dead brain. There was no rational reasoning anymore, only darkness & the pain - the words. I heard words that I thought I never would hear, but I did and I didn't have the capacity to accept those words. I didn't even think about the people who love & care about me. All I could think of was death as the solution. I chided God for what I faced. I hated God for what happened. I was angry with God.

BUT, in the end, there was one thing that came across my mind. It was a question. The question was "Are you going to let go the entire history of your life just because one incident that was beyond your control? An incident by a person who no longer deserves to be a part of your life?"

And that question was enough for me to stop thinking about suicide ever. I may not sound so modern, but what help me have a clear head was prayers - the best weapon for human beings. There were several people who helped me see the blessings that I have had in my life, the responsibilities of mine, the dreams that I have to catch. I started praying again. I asked for forgiveness for my radical thoughts, my radical anger, my uncontrollable hatred. I prayed for peace in my heart. I was blessed and I still am.

I don't know how many people are right now in the position where I was long ago, but if you are in a suicidal situation, please stop for a while and ask these questions to yourself:

  1. Have you seen God through the blessing & the people that you could cherish in your life?
  2. Is there a person whose world would crumble down if you die?
  3. Is there a goal in your life that you want to achieve as a human being?
  4. Is there one single tiny reason for you to keep that precious life of yours intact?
  5. Are you sure God's willing in your life is for you to die in your own hands?
  6. Are you that blind that you can't even have faith that every bad thing happens for good reason?
  7. Is the incident that you are facing now worth sacrificing the entire history, present, & future of your life?

If you answer YES for any of the first 4 questions or NO for any of the last 3 questions, then get rid of that dark thoughts.

The reasons for your dark thoughts may come from your own mistakes or from others' mistakes. Whichever it is, it's worth forgiving. You may not be able to forgive others, but you can forgive yourself and that's more than enough. Our harvest is based on the seed we throw, so next time, pay attention on what kind of seed you are throwing.

You don't have to have a strong inclination to prove that you are better to the people who did wrong to you. If you live with such intentions, the responsibility will be too heavy for you. You would be driven by revenge to prove that you are better. Trust me, I was there once and it's not worth it. The more peace you create for yourself, the more you focus in your daily task, and the more you give the best to everything you do... the more the best would come.

All you have to do is, focus on your daily task. Do your job, whatever it is; Eat healthy food; Go out and get some fresh air; Meet new people; Do new things. By the grace of God, sooner or later, you will be completely out of that dark stage and be reborn for something better in your life.

Just remember: What doesn't kill you, will only make your stronger, brighter, and braver... if only you swallow it hard & move up ;)

Have a blessed weekend folks and God bless you!

Friday, November 29, 2013

When You Search, It Will Hide

When You Search, It Will Hide
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When you were confirmed that you loose, you actually win

When you cry a river, the happiness comes bluntly in your face

When you have the capacity to wipe your own tears, you find a shoulder to cry on

When you want someone to help you, you are left alone

When you finally could advise yourself, people come and give you feedback

When you realize your mistakes, the people have gone for good

When you want love, people give you hatred

When you want family, you are laughed as undeserving & all you are left is loneliness

When you reject relationship, someone comes along the way & wants to be yours

When you run away from love, it chases you to the core

When you could eventually stand for yourself, people offer to stand by you

When you have grown up mentally, there are things you no longer could trace back

When you pray for something, the answer is sometimes NO

When you no longer know what to pray, God grows faith so strongly in you

When you want to get away, you are stuck in the place where you don't belong

And when you finally could fly away, there is no more return path

Life....

it forces you to learn when you want to learn the least

Sometimes it takes what you want and gives what you need

Sometimes it takes your soul & mould it in a way nothing could do

Sometimes, at the times when you are empty & no longer desire anything, it gives you everything

And sometimes, when you think you don't deserve to be a part of the universe, life announces that you are one of the best part of the universe who deserves everything

Love... Wealth.... Health.... Hope... Happiness... People... Family... Colors... and a lot of Sunshine

Life...

It's okay not to know the answers

It's okay to be confused

It's okay to be depressed

Because eventually, if you are right, God won't allow anything to go wrong for long

And if you are wrong, it's only about having a humble soul to ask for forgiveness & proving that you also could change!

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For those out there who are gloomy, who feels that at the end of the tunnel is a train... GET UP... Look above, shout, scream as loud as your chest allows, hit the ground with your hands over and over again... STAND UP. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and walk with faith. When the time comes for you to open your eyes, you would know what to do! Have a great weekend, folks :)

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Wedding Jingles Are Everywhere, Single People!

Well, this time I think it's gonna be something uncomfortable for some of us. Being a single woman or a single guy at the age where it's reaching dusk, hearing the wedding jingles would create some uneasy tinglings. It is not about jealousy, it is not about having less capacity in accepting the facts... it's just a thought of "what is it like to be wedded?"
Being single at the age where you are supposed to be married, is something that the society finds "weird" about. It's as if marriage is compulsory. Well, the society is "weird". It has some set of norms & conventions which are incomprehensible at times. Who said marriage is compulsory?

Marriage a life choice (it's a choice, not an obligation) that you take when you find that one person whom you believe you could spend the rest of your life with. You believe you could communicate with him/her. You believe you could trust that person. You believe you could go through hard and soft with that person. You believe you could rely on that person. It's not simply about getting married just because society believes that is the way of life. If you do it for society's sake or for your parents' sake, you are doomed forever, folks!!! DOOMED!!

There are many single people out there, men and women, who have found what they want in their lives and marriage is no longer something they seek. They believe that if it has to come along, then it will come along. For those who still can't accept the fact that they are still single, I shall say... THIS IS THE BEST TIME TO SHAPE YOURSELF. THE BEST TIME TO FIND WHO YOU ARE, WHAT YOU WANT, WHERE YOU ARE HEADING, AND WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU ACTUALLY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH. It's not something that you cry about or fuss about or depressed about.

Mr. Mario Teguh, the motivator, once ever said that if you are still single, then it's the time for you to have some introspection towards yourself as best as you could, so that you shall be ready when God brings your better half in front of you. Very well said Mr. Teguh.

For all the "happily" married couples, God bless you! You are lucky. For all the singles, the world is in your hands, stop pitying yourself and enjoy these benefits:
  1. You have all the time in the world to understand about yourself - know what you want, what you dislike, what makes you happy, what your values & principles are, what your strengths & weaknesses are, etc
  2. You have the capacity to know your friends & family better
  3. It's the time to fix some stain in your personality, character, behavior, and habits
  4. You could actually spend some time to decide what kind of person you actually wish to have as a life partner
  5. Less money worries as the expenditure for unnecessary grand dinner or weekend out could be cut
  6. Independence to choose the place where you wish to stay
  7. Independence to change your career (that might force you to move to different geographical location)
  8. Less headache from all the relationship fuss, tears, & drama which are indeed bound to happen
  9. You could travel to your favorite holiday destination without having to consider whether your partner would like it or not (not to mention, being single could cut you cost as you could simply be a back-packer)
  10. Have a hobby?? You have more time to spend time on it... so DO IT!
  11. Have a noble cause to support?? Go for it, babe!
  12. You could be your own boss. You are free to be spontaneous in making your own decision (warning: make sure you understand the consequences!)
Next time, someone asks you "Hey, when are you getting married?", just tell them "Get a life for heaven's sake, you dingbat!" ;) (well, depends on who ask the question though)

NOW, I'm not telling you that these benefits could be enjoyed for the rest of the life (except for some of us who are born to be a "single"-minded). Sooner or later, you would want to share your fun and sorrow with someone who deserves to be a part of your life.

For those out there who are still waiting for that one humble man or that one humble woman... I wish that you find the person who deserves to be in your life, a person with whom you could share the love, a person with whom you could fight without being intimidated, and a person who believes that you worth all the tantrums. Have a great day ahead, folks! God be with you!

Friday, November 22, 2013

Re-post: 10 Differences Between Dating A Girl and Dating A Woman

As promised, the continuance of previous post by Jarrid Wilson would be from the male point of view in dating a girl or a woman. You could go to the original source of the article HERE.

Here are 10 differences between dating a girl vs. dating a woman.
1. A woman will respect her body. A girl will do everything she can to flaunt it.
2. A woman will own up to her mistakes. A girl will make excuses for them.
3. A woman will respect you no matter the circumstance. A girl will only respect you when she wants something in return.
4. A woman will do whatever it takes to provide and support. A girl will look for others to take care of her.
5. A woman will prepare for the future. A girl lives in the moment.
6. A woman looks to gain the respect of your family. A girl look to gain attention from people around her.
7. A woman is firm in her beliefs. A girl changes her beliefs depending on the man.
8. A woman has integrity.  A girl makes promises she knows she cannot keep.
9. A woman will always take an opportunity to learn. A girl thinks she knows everything.
10. A woman seeks more than just good looks. A girl seeks arm-candy so she can show off.

What can I say? ONCE, partly I was a girl too ;). However, other than this, if you are interested, you could have a look at similar post in Just My Type. This article is also pretty interesting and pretty constructive to read. Have a great weekend ahead, folks!

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Re-post: 10 Differences Between Dating A Boy and Dating A Man

Few days earlier, this topic came into my reading list as I'm one of the subscribers of Jarrid Wilson's blog. You could check the original source HERE.

10 Differences Between Dating A Boy Vs. Dating A Man
#1
- A man will own up to his mistakes.
- A boy will make excuses for them.

#2
- A man will respect your purity.
- A boy will let his desires control him.

#3
- A man will respect you no matter the circumstance.
- A boy will respect you when he wants something in return.

#4
- A man will do whatever it takes to provide.
- A boy will make excuses as to why he can’t provide.

#5
- A man will prepare for the future.
- A boy lives in the moment.

#6
- A man looks to gain the respect of your family.
- A boy look to gain popularity from people around him.

#7
- A man is firm in his beliefs.
- A boy changes his beliefs depending on the girl.

#8
- A man has integrity.
- A boy makes promises he knows he cannot keep.

#9
- A man will always take an opportunity to learn.
- A boy thinks he knows everything.

#10
- A man seeks more than just beauty
- A boy seeks beauty so he can show off.
source of image
I think his post has spoken for itself. I don't need to say anything for it. However, Jarrid has accepted a comment that Girl vs Woman topic might come soon. Will share that too as soon as it is posted. And by the way, the other similar article that you might be interested in this one (click on it): Just My Type. Have a great week ahead :)

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Tragic Humor of Plastic Surgery

I accidentally read a posting today about how one husband sued his wife for giving him ugly children. I think you could read it here.

That article basically said about a woman who is less attractive who conducted plastic surgery, got married and for sure, she couldn't hide the true nature of her genes. She produces children whom her husband found "ugly" and hence, he sued her for cheating him about her true appearance.

I am not here to judge how he wrote it, but rather, I think I shall focus more on the moral values of the topic he has taken up. It's a pretty interesting social phenomenon that is currently happening everywhere.

And, please bear in mind, I AM NOT IN A SERIOUS MOOD today and hence, my posting may sound ridiculous or even sarcastic at some point. You read and take the gist as per your wish :)

There are many reasons a woman or a man conduct a plastic surgery - accidents, low self-esteem, too extreme body features which may not be comfortable to be seen by the outside world, etc.

Now, some people would say "Why would you want to do cosmetic surgery? God has given you that way, then accept it."

Yes, that makes perfect sense, but the outside world doesn't accept that so easily. For example, if you are a woman and you have a scar on your face (whether it is by birth or accident), what is your chance of being accepted as a professional employee in a company? Maybe that woman doesn't want to change anything and accept the fact that she has a scar on her face, but if at the same time, she has to feed her family and the job is important for her, what option does she have? Not much I'm sure.

And about men who run behind women with perfect features to make sure that their children are also produced well - that also makes sense to me, BUT to which extent? There are many people in the calibre of Miss Universe and Mister Universe and yet they may not have Baby Universe calibre of a child. It's genetic for heaven's sake.

If you are too handsome or too beautiful  now, there are still possibilities to have a too-ugly great grandmother or extremely ugly great great grandfather and those UGLY genes are still running in your blood even though you look as handsome as Vin Diesel now (I like Vin Diesel so bear with my example). If your child is suddenly ugly and you blame your so-called "operated" wife, can you guarantee that the genes don't come from your ancestors?

In the era where information is spread in a matter of seconds, and access to better knowledge is easier compared to 10 years ago, sometimes we even have shallower perceptions on things. I don't know why such. Maybe we should bang our heads more to make them work properly.

So, my tips if you wish to marry a woman and at least be safe, then do these:
  1. Look at the inner beauty instead of only some sexual attraction. Sexual attraction can go for good in a split second while it takes time or never for inner beauty to fade.
  2. Look at her childhood pictures to make sure there is nothing wrong with her that would make you feel sorry. Childhood pictures from that old dusty photo album can't be photoshopped for your information.
  3. Both of you must have comprehensive health check-up to make sure that the children won't be born with unwanted defects, such as blood anomalies, and other genetically carried disease or defects, including albino (bear in mind, albinos could be born from normal carrier parents. If albinos can, why can't "ugly". How if you are "ugly carrier", just like "albino carrier"?)
  4. See if mentally and spiritually, a woman has the capacity to be a mother of children and a woman of a home. A super-sexy wife without these criteria won't give you any long-lasting companionship. If you get a super-sexy wife with these criteria, then consider yourself hitting a double jackpot. Preserve that relationship even if YOU have to do plastic surgery ;)...*okay, I'm just kidding*
So the bottom line here for men out there, if you are not careful in the beginning AND LATER ON start suing your wife for giving ugly or malfunctioned children as you say it, then you are making a clown of yourself.

By the way, this posting is also directed for women when selecting men. Make sure he's not a transgender. You are free to choose your life-style and you are free to go with your own sexual orientation, whether you are a heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. But if you are a heterosexual, you definitely don't want to be a homosexual by marriage, right? So... YES, make sure he's not just a macho transgender.

Okay folks, it's time for me to swim in gallons of coffee to get me back to earth and start thinking deep and serious.

And before I end this, I want to say something from my heart. Being ugly or beautiful doesn't depend on your skin, on how sharp your nose is, on how slim your waist it, on how long your legs are, or on how broad and hairy chested you are (for men of course, don't have a heart attack yet).... Ugly or Beautiful is determined by the quality of your soul. No beautiful soul has ugly appearance. ALWAYS remember that. Have a bright day ahead!

Source: http://izismile.com/2012/11/07/the_horrors_of_terrible_plastic_surgery_40_pics.html


Sunday, November 3, 2013

Recipe: Oyster-Mushroom Finger Chips

This weekend, when I went for shopping, I found Oyster Mushroom and when I cooked it today, I had some nostalgic moment in my kitchen. The first time I had this mushroom was in India, when one of my seniors from Indonesia introduced me to this. I am a bit skeptical with mushrooms other than button mushrooms as for sensitive stomachs, mushrooms are not the first choice of food, but this oyster-mushroom is neutral enough I guess. It taste so good that I started eating it pretty often.

It was my friend, Nath's favorite too. When I cooked it today, it reminds me of her easy-going, my food my cooking, and everything is fair in love, war, and my cooking attitude of her. She often made me produce horror face when she was cooking, but the end result was never disappointing. I should admit, I miss her soup, satay, and the way she fried these mushrooms. Whenever she was around, the kitchen would be the best place to find horror, comedy, and excellent food.

However, today I'm going to do something that I have never done in my blog before - sharing a recipe. This is not a big-time recipe, though. Even a man from Mars who never visited a kitchen could cook this.

The things you need (based on what I used today):
  • 250gr Oyster Mushroom
  • 6 full tbsp of wheat flour
  • 8 full tbsp of rice flour
  • A glass of water
  • Oil for frying
Spices:
  • Half inch of ginger
  • 1 tsp of black pepper
  • 6 cloves of big garlic or 10-12 of small ones
  • A dash of salt
How To Prepare:
  1. Wash the mushroom in water which has been mixed with some salt. Set aside.

  2. Grind all the spices and make it into paste or liquidy paste in my case of cooking today.

  3. Mix the paste with the wheat flour and water until it reach medium consistency. Set aside.

  4. Place the rice flour on a dry plate & add a bit of salt in that flour.

  5. Heat the oil in the pan or wok (whatever you are using) and keep the flame in medium-high to give a crunchy result of the mushroom.
  6. Dip the mushroom in the wet dough and roll it on the dry rice flour.

  7. Deep fry until golden brown. When you put the mushroom in the oil, it should give a "brave" sizzling sound as the sign of good heat. If it gives "shy" sizzling sound, it means your oil is not hot enough and your mushroom will be less crunchy. Let me remind you, it won't take more than a minute, so don't put it in the oil and start talking on the phone. You would end up with charcoal finger chips if you do that.

  8. Then serve hot with chili sauce, tartar sauce, or any sauce of your choice. For those who love mushrooms, I guarantee that you would enjoy this.
Note:
  • When you buy the mushroom, they have to look white and fresh. Don't buy if the color has started to change to light brown.
  • You could add  chili & onion in the spices if you are fond of oriental taste.
  • Make sure the oil is hot enough when you start frying or you won't get anything crunchy.
  • You could use this dish as an appetizer for any dinner or luncheon, tea-time with family or friends, or just for all-day munching like what I'm doing :)
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