Friday, November 29, 2013

When You Search, It Will Hide

When You Search, It Will Hide

When you were confirmed that you loose, you actually win

When you cry a river, the happiness comes bluntly in your face

When you have the capacity to wipe your own tears, you find a shoulder to cry on

When you want someone to help you, you are left alone

When you finally could advise yourself, people come and give you feedback

When you realize your mistakes, the people have gone for good

When you want love, people give you hatred

When you want family, you are laughed as undeserving & all you are left is loneliness

When you reject relationship, someone comes along the way & wants to be yours

When you run away from love, it chases you to the core

When you could eventually stand for yourself, people offer to stand by you

When you have grown up mentally, there are things you no longer could trace back

When you pray for something, the answer is sometimes NO

When you no longer know what to pray, God grows faith so strongly in you

When you want to get away, you are stuck in the place where you don't belong

And when you finally could fly away, there is no more return path


it forces you to learn when you want to learn the least

Sometimes it takes what you want and gives what you need

Sometimes it takes your soul & mould it in a way nothing could do

Sometimes, at the times when you are empty & no longer desire anything, it gives you everything

And sometimes, when you think you don't deserve to be a part of the universe, life announces that you are one of the best part of the universe who deserves everything

Love... Wealth.... Health.... Hope... Happiness... People... Family... Colors... and a lot of Sunshine


It's okay not to know the answers

It's okay to be confused

It's okay to be depressed

Because eventually, if you are right, God won't allow anything to go wrong for long

And if you are wrong, it's only about having a humble soul to ask for forgiveness & proving that you also could change!


For those out there who are gloomy, who feels that at the end of the tunnel is a train... GET UP... Look above, shout, scream as loud as your chest allows, hit the ground with your hands over and over again... STAND UP. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and walk with faith. When the time comes for you to open your eyes, you would know what to do! Have a great weekend, folks :)

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Wedding Jingles Are Everywhere, Single People!

Well, this time I think it's gonna be something uncomfortable for some of us. Being a single woman or a single guy at the age where it's reaching dusk, hearing the wedding jingles would create some uneasy tinglings. It is not about jealousy, it is not about having less capacity in accepting the facts... it's just a thought of "what is it like to be wedded?"
Being single at the age where you are supposed to be married, is something that the society finds "weird" about. It's as if marriage is compulsory. Well, the society is "weird". It has some set of norms & conventions which are incomprehensible at times. Who said marriage is compulsory?

Marriage a life choice (it's a choice, not an obligation) that you take when you find that one person whom you believe you could spend the rest of your life with. You believe you could communicate with him/her. You believe you could trust that person. You believe you could go through hard and soft with that person. You believe you could rely on that person. It's not simply about getting married just because society believes that is the way of life. If you do it for society's sake or for your parents' sake, you are doomed forever, folks!!! DOOMED!!

There are many single people out there, men and women, who have found what they want in their lives and marriage is no longer something they seek. They believe that if it has to come along, then it will come along. For those who still can't accept the fact that they are still single, I shall say... THIS IS THE BEST TIME TO SHAPE YOURSELF. THE BEST TIME TO FIND WHO YOU ARE, WHAT YOU WANT, WHERE YOU ARE HEADING, AND WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU ACTUALLY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH. It's not something that you cry about or fuss about or depressed about.

Mr. Mario Teguh, the motivator, once ever said that if you are still single, then it's the time for you to have some introspection towards yourself as best as you could, so that you shall be ready when God brings your better half in front of you. Very well said Mr. Teguh.

For all the "happily" married couples, God bless you! You are lucky. For all the singles, the world is in your hands, stop pitying yourself and enjoy these benefits:
  1. You have all the time in the world to understand about yourself - know what you want, what you dislike, what makes you happy, what your values & principles are, what your strengths & weaknesses are, etc
  2. You have the capacity to know your friends & family better
  3. It's the time to fix some stain in your personality, character, behavior, and habits
  4. You could actually spend some time to decide what kind of person you actually wish to have as a life partner
  5. Less money worries as the expenditure for unnecessary grand dinner or weekend out could be cut
  6. Independence to choose the place where you wish to stay
  7. Independence to change your career (that might force you to move to different geographical location)
  8. Less headache from all the relationship fuss, tears, & drama which are indeed bound to happen
  9. You could travel to your favorite holiday destination without having to consider whether your partner would like it or not (not to mention, being single could cut you cost as you could simply be a back-packer)
  10. Have a hobby?? You have more time to spend time on it... so DO IT!
  11. Have a noble cause to support?? Go for it, babe!
  12. You could be your own boss. You are free to be spontaneous in making your own decision (warning: make sure you understand the consequences!)
Next time, someone asks you "Hey, when are you getting married?", just tell them "Get a life for heaven's sake, you dingbat!" ;) (well, depends on who ask the question though)

NOW, I'm not telling you that these benefits could be enjoyed for the rest of the life (except for some of us who are born to be a "single"-minded). Sooner or later, you would want to share your fun and sorrow with someone who deserves to be a part of your life.

For those out there who are still waiting for that one humble man or that one humble woman... I wish that you find the person who deserves to be in your life, a person with whom you could share the love, a person with whom you could fight without being intimidated, and a person who believes that you worth all the tantrums. Have a great day ahead, folks! God be with you!

Friday, November 22, 2013

Re-post: 10 Differences Between Dating A Girl and Dating A Woman

As promised, the continuance of previous post by Jarrid Wilson would be from the male point of view in dating a girl or a woman. You could go to the original source of the article HERE.

Here are 10 differences between dating a girl vs. dating a woman.
1. A woman will respect her body. A girl will do everything she can to flaunt it.
2. A woman will own up to her mistakes. A girl will make excuses for them.
3. A woman will respect you no matter the circumstance. A girl will only respect you when she wants something in return.
4. A woman will do whatever it takes to provide and support. A girl will look for others to take care of her.
5. A woman will prepare for the future. A girl lives in the moment.
6. A woman looks to gain the respect of your family. A girl look to gain attention from people around her.
7. A woman is firm in her beliefs. A girl changes her beliefs depending on the man.
8. A woman has integrity.  A girl makes promises she knows she cannot keep.
9. A woman will always take an opportunity to learn. A girl thinks she knows everything.
10. A woman seeks more than just good looks. A girl seeks arm-candy so she can show off.

What can I say? ONCE, partly I was a girl too ;). However, other than this, if you are interested, you could have a look at similar post in Just My Type. This article is also pretty interesting and pretty constructive to read. Have a great weekend ahead, folks!

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Re-post: 10 Differences Between Dating A Boy and Dating A Man

Few days earlier, this topic came into my reading list as I'm one of the subscribers of Jarrid Wilson's blog. You could check the original source HERE.

10 Differences Between Dating A Boy Vs. Dating A Man
- A man will own up to his mistakes.
- A boy will make excuses for them.

- A man will respect your purity.
- A boy will let his desires control him.

- A man will respect you no matter the circumstance.
- A boy will respect you when he wants something in return.

- A man will do whatever it takes to provide.
- A boy will make excuses as to why he can’t provide.

- A man will prepare for the future.
- A boy lives in the moment.

- A man looks to gain the respect of your family.
- A boy look to gain popularity from people around him.

- A man is firm in his beliefs.
- A boy changes his beliefs depending on the girl.

- A man has integrity.
- A boy makes promises he knows he cannot keep.

- A man will always take an opportunity to learn.
- A boy thinks he knows everything.

- A man seeks more than just beauty
- A boy seeks beauty so he can show off.
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I think his post has spoken for itself. I don't need to say anything for it. However, Jarrid has accepted a comment that Girl vs Woman topic might come soon. Will share that too as soon as it is posted. And by the way, the other similar article that you might be interested in this one (click on it): Just My Type. Have a great week ahead :)

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Tragic Humor of Plastic Surgery

I accidentally read a posting today about how one husband sued his wife for giving him ugly children. I think you could read it here.

That article basically said about a woman who is less attractive who conducted plastic surgery, got married and for sure, she couldn't hide the true nature of her genes. She produces children whom her husband found "ugly" and hence, he sued her for cheating him about her true appearance.

I am not here to judge how he wrote it, but rather, I think I shall focus more on the moral values of the topic he has taken up. It's a pretty interesting social phenomenon that is currently happening everywhere.

And, please bear in mind, I AM NOT IN A SERIOUS MOOD today and hence, my posting may sound ridiculous or even sarcastic at some point. You read and take the gist as per your wish :)

There are many reasons a woman or a man conduct a plastic surgery - accidents, low self-esteem, too extreme body features which may not be comfortable to be seen by the outside world, etc.

Now, some people would say "Why would you want to do cosmetic surgery? God has given you that way, then accept it."

Yes, that makes perfect sense, but the outside world doesn't accept that so easily. For example, if you are a woman and you have a scar on your face (whether it is by birth or accident), what is your chance of being accepted as a professional employee in a company? Maybe that woman doesn't want to change anything and accept the fact that she has a scar on her face, but if at the same time, she has to feed her family and the job is important for her, what option does she have? Not much I'm sure.

And about men who run behind women with perfect features to make sure that their children are also produced well - that also makes sense to me, BUT to which extent? There are many people in the calibre of Miss Universe and Mister Universe and yet they may not have Baby Universe calibre of a child. It's genetic for heaven's sake.

If you are too handsome or too beautiful  now, there are still possibilities to have a too-ugly great grandmother or extremely ugly great great grandfather and those UGLY genes are still running in your blood even though you look as handsome as Vin Diesel now (I like Vin Diesel so bear with my example). If your child is suddenly ugly and you blame your so-called "operated" wife, can you guarantee that the genes don't come from your ancestors?

In the era where information is spread in a matter of seconds, and access to better knowledge is easier compared to 10 years ago, sometimes we even have shallower perceptions on things. I don't know why such. Maybe we should bang our heads more to make them work properly.

So, my tips if you wish to marry a woman and at least be safe, then do these:
  1. Look at the inner beauty instead of only some sexual attraction. Sexual attraction can go for good in a split second while it takes time or never for inner beauty to fade.
  2. Look at her childhood pictures to make sure there is nothing wrong with her that would make you feel sorry. Childhood pictures from that old dusty photo album can't be photoshopped for your information.
  3. Both of you must have comprehensive health check-up to make sure that the children won't be born with unwanted defects, such as blood anomalies, and other genetically carried disease or defects, including albino (bear in mind, albinos could be born from normal carrier parents. If albinos can, why can't "ugly". How if you are "ugly carrier", just like "albino carrier"?)
  4. See if mentally and spiritually, a woman has the capacity to be a mother of children and a woman of a home. A super-sexy wife without these criteria won't give you any long-lasting companionship. If you get a super-sexy wife with these criteria, then consider yourself hitting a double jackpot. Preserve that relationship even if YOU have to do plastic surgery ;)...*okay, I'm just kidding*
So the bottom line here for men out there, if you are not careful in the beginning AND LATER ON start suing your wife for giving ugly or malfunctioned children as you say it, then you are making a clown of yourself.

By the way, this posting is also directed for women when selecting men. Make sure he's not a transgender. You are free to choose your life-style and you are free to go with your own sexual orientation, whether you are a heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. But if you are a heterosexual, you definitely don't want to be a homosexual by marriage, right? So... YES, make sure he's not just a macho transgender.

Okay folks, it's time for me to swim in gallons of coffee to get me back to earth and start thinking deep and serious.

And before I end this, I want to say something from my heart. Being ugly or beautiful doesn't depend on your skin, on how sharp your nose is, on how slim your waist it, on how long your legs are, or on how broad and hairy chested you are (for men of course, don't have a heart attack yet).... Ugly or Beautiful is determined by the quality of your soul. No beautiful soul has ugly appearance. ALWAYS remember that. Have a bright day ahead!


Sunday, November 3, 2013

Recipe: Oyster-Mushroom Finger Chips

This weekend, when I went for shopping, I found Oyster Mushroom and when I cooked it today, I had some nostalgic moment in my kitchen. The first time I had this mushroom was in India, when one of my seniors from Indonesia introduced me to this. I am a bit skeptical with mushrooms other than button mushrooms as for sensitive stomachs, mushrooms are not the first choice of food, but this oyster-mushroom is neutral enough I guess. It taste so good that I started eating it pretty often.

It was my friend, Nath's favorite too. When I cooked it today, it reminds me of her easy-going, my food my cooking, and everything is fair in love, war, and my cooking attitude of her. She often made me produce horror face when she was cooking, but the end result was never disappointing. I should admit, I miss her soup, satay, and the way she fried these mushrooms. Whenever she was around, the kitchen would be the best place to find horror, comedy, and excellent food.

However, today I'm going to do something that I have never done in my blog before - sharing a recipe. This is not a big-time recipe, though. Even a man from Mars who never visited a kitchen could cook this.

The things you need (based on what I used today):
  • 250gr Oyster Mushroom
  • 6 full tbsp of wheat flour
  • 8 full tbsp of rice flour
  • A glass of water
  • Oil for frying
  • Half inch of ginger
  • 1 tsp of black pepper
  • 6 cloves of big garlic or 10-12 of small ones
  • A dash of salt
How To Prepare:
  1. Wash the mushroom in water which has been mixed with some salt. Set aside.

  2. Grind all the spices and make it into paste or liquidy paste in my case of cooking today.

  3. Mix the paste with the wheat flour and water until it reach medium consistency. Set aside.

  4. Place the rice flour on a dry plate & add a bit of salt in that flour.

  5. Heat the oil in the pan or wok (whatever you are using) and keep the flame in medium-high to give a crunchy result of the mushroom.
  6. Dip the mushroom in the wet dough and roll it on the dry rice flour.

  7. Deep fry until golden brown. When you put the mushroom in the oil, it should give a "brave" sizzling sound as the sign of good heat. If it gives "shy" sizzling sound, it means your oil is not hot enough and your mushroom will be less crunchy. Let me remind you, it won't take more than a minute, so don't put it in the oil and start talking on the phone. You would end up with charcoal finger chips if you do that.

  8. Then serve hot with chili sauce, tartar sauce, or any sauce of your choice. For those who love mushrooms, I guarantee that you would enjoy this.
  • When you buy the mushroom, they have to look white and fresh. Don't buy if the color has started to change to light brown.
  • You could add  chili & onion in the spices if you are fond of oriental taste.
  • Make sure the oil is hot enough when you start frying or you won't get anything crunchy.
  • You could use this dish as an appetizer for any dinner or luncheon, tea-time with family or friends, or just for all-day munching like what I'm doing :)
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Saturday, November 2, 2013

Are You Abusing My Concept of "Praying"?

These days, everything has rules and regulation. There is always a way of doing things. In order to perform one single task, one person or a group of people shall say one thing while the others would say another thing. Of course, "multiple ways in performing one task" is absolutely acceptable, but in some cases, that is not the case.

That one thing that I wish to take up is "to pray". I am not trying to make any inductive references related to this as I completely have no rights on that, but I definitely have my rights to voice my thoughts.

There are people out there who have forgotten the real meaning of "pray" and start nagging about what others do.

Some would say that "this fruit is not supposed to be placed for this deity". Some would say that "for this deity, you have to do it this way and for that deity, you have to do it that way". And if we ask, "Why such?", they would simply say "That's the way in the culture". If we ask why is it like this and that is like that, they would give unreasonable explanation that most common men won't understand.

If I ask "If I do it this way, what would happen?" and they would say "It would make the God angry". Thank God I didn't burst out laughing.

Some would value the "building" of the praying place as the very sacred place and he would only pray in that building and only in that building he would use proper wordings - no cursing, no chiding, no abusing. The moment he goes out of the building, then the old dirty drama shall start again.

So the conclusion here is that "God is building", isn't it?

When did we we stop understanding the meaning of praying and simply judge people on how he should communicate with his God? I have heard a saying "Common sense is not common at all". At one point of time, I thought it was a non-sense, but NOW, I truly understand what it tries to say.

Every person has his own way in communicating to God and yet, we have no right to judge others.

From my point of view and from what I know, to pray means to communicate with God. Seclude yourself from the noise, go to a quite place where you won't be disturbed, kneel down, close your eyes, and speak your heart. Talk to God whatever you wish to say. You are angry to someone because he was fooling around with you, tell that to God in your prayer. You feel excited because your boyfriend says you are beautiful, share that with God in your prayer. You have bad or good intentions, tell that to God. He will decide whether you could execute that or not.

I'm not telling you that we must not go to the praying places to pray. That we definitely have to do, because that's where the communal harmony could be established in our social life. The power of prayer of thousands hands put together is a miracle. Keep the sacred place as a sacred place, but let's not start judging others.

And remember, no one is perfect. We make mistakes, both in present and past and surely we will make some more in the future as well... BUT, every single day is a chance to polish yourself, to redress your mistakes, and to do better.

May this Deepavali brings more joy, more blessing, and better understanding of those blessings for those who celebrate and for every child of God. Good night and Be blessed, folks!